Posts Tagged ‘sex drive’

You Are The Pill That You Eat

Tuesday, June 9th, 2009

Amber waves of grain, the stuff of our Neolithic ancestors

Amber waves of grain, the stuff of our Neolithic ancestors

At some point as we evolved, well after the Neolithic period, we started thinking that there must be a better way to get nutrients, something faster and more efficient, than through the food we have eaten for tens of thousands of years. Our fantasy of the future was encapsulated with TV shows like The Jetsons and Star Trek, where roast chickens and earl grey tea were produced by the touch of a button. Nowadays, grocery stores offer fruit smoothies, breakfast bars, energy drinks and microwave pizzas, so we can fuel up quickly and efficiently. Why sit down when you can eat while running? We take vitamins with the idea that we can rectify any potential deficiencies and even prevent illness, with the swallow of a pill. How simple, how easy, how efficient.

As a society, we are in love with “nutriceutical” supplements. About half of all adults take a multivitamin everyday and it is estimated that $75 billion worldwide is spent annually on nutriceuticals. And nonvitamin and nonmineral natural product use is so prevalent in the U.S. (40% of Americans) that the National Institutes of Health has even commissioned a new branch devoted entirely to the pursuit of complementary and alternative medicine research. This effort will undoubtedly unleash the true potential of alternative medicine. But let’s drill down on vitamins for a minute. What does the evidence really show? Well, it appears that taking vitamin supplements may not as beneficial as previously thought. Several major studies have now shown that vitamin supplements do little to prevent cancer and heart disease, while other studies report that vitamins and antioxidant supplements may actually increase cancer rates. One study concluded that folic acid supplements actually increased rates of precancerous colon polyps, and another study linked beta-carotene to higher lung cancer rates. Are vitamins then, failing us as supplements?

No one discounts the necessity of vitamins for our body’s function. Indeed, many diseases are associated with a deficiency in one or another vitamin. But we do place rather high expectations on vitamins. It’s rather narrow-minded of us to tout only a few particular nutrients in food and assign them letters of the alphabet, when many others may be just as essential to our primitive bodies, yet are unfamiliar to us intellectually. Vitamins do not exist in a void, but are part of a complex mixture of substances called food that is the real stuff of life. If anything, the fact that vitamins are getting an F in cancer prevention suggests that the way that they are absorbed in a pill is not the same as the way we extract them from whole foods that we eat.

My patients frequently ask me what supplements they should take to enhance their sexual health or fertility. The truth is that because sexual health is so thoroughly intertwined with overall health, I emphasize a whole-body approach. I don’t recommend a specific course of supplements, but antioxidants may have some value. If they wish to take a supplement, they may, but the important thing is that they get all nutrients necessary for their bodies to function optimally. The real solution to this is a well-balanced diet low in fat and sugar, emphasizing whole grains, fruits, and vegetables. That said, I do realize how resistant many people can be to changing their diet. If a patient feels they must take a supplement to compensate for poor eating habits, I steer them towards whole food supplements that contain a larger and more complex spectrum of nutrients than that found in traditional multivitamins. In all honesty however, I firmly believe in carrots from the earth and apples from trees, just like our Neolithic ancestors did.

No Sex? Get Some Sleep!

Friday, May 1st, 2009

The Exquisite Woman Right Next to You..

The Exquisite Woman Right Next to You..

As a men’s health specialist, I get to hear a lot of things that men wouldn’t tell their best friends. And a very common occurrence is their confession that they have lost some of their sex drive. “My partner is great and I used to want sex ALL the time, now it barely enters my mind” is what I hear most.

The first thing to realize is that if you do not have the sex drive that you had when you were 18 years old, maybe its because you aren’t 18 anymore. Maybe the 10 to 20 years of aging that has occurred since then has taken a small toll. You are now older and wiser, having survived wars, financial distress and maybe even children, and you could be a bit less frisky as a result.

That reminds me of two memorable patients who represent different ends of this spectrum. Both in their late 30’s, one answered my survey question about how often they have sex by writing “twice daily, every day” and the other wrote “by appointment only.” This just goes to show that we are all built differently and we all age differently. Neither is really clinically out of the normal range. Blame comments in the locker room, Hollywood films, or Internet porn, but men often feel like their sex drive should not change with age. Tough for men to talk about and therefore tough for them to gauge. However, it is well understood by sex therapists that men aren’t always in the mood. Sometimes the History Channel looks way better.

It may not be for any lack of love or Barry White records. However, if it has been several weeks since you last took your wristwatch off, so to speak, then the real issue behind your lack of sex drive may be your level of sleeplessness and stress. If you aren’t well rested, you probably aren’t feeling too frisky. You’re probably cranky. Believe it or not, this is a very common reason why sex lives are compromised. Being anxious puts your nervous system, once part of the animal kingdom, into a primitive “fight-or-flight” response, and buries the sex drive. Relaxation though, stimulate several appetites, including degustory and sexual.

For a robust sex life, both of you need energy, relaxation, and time. The mind is the largest sexual organ, and turning off the amygdala, the portion of your brain that handles fear and worry, will allow that quiet, sensitive part of your brain that handles sex drive to kick into gear. Think seriously about turning off the TV or computer earlier in the evening, and swap out dozing in front of the TV for more restful sleep in bed. Think hard about improving how much quality rest you actually get, not necessarily to have more sex, but simply to sleep; the sex will follow. Make dates with your partner so you can focus solely on each other and forget the usual distractions. Take her to a funny movie, and laugh (or cry) together. But make the time, make it important, and catch some zzzs. Revving up your sex life can be as simple as that.